5 Ways to Honor, Heal, and Integrate the Divine Masculine

Father’s Day is approaching, and we have a wonderful opportunity to reflect on and reassess our relationship with the Divine Masculine. Here at Sage Goddess, we’re constantly talking about the Divine Feminine and the integral role it plays on this earth. But what about the Divine Masculine? After all, there’s no yin without yang, no goddess without god; just as the masculine needs the feminine, the feminine needs the masculine – which is why, in this blog, I’m sharing 5 ways to honor, heal, and integrate the Divine Masculine.

The masculine in its extreme is often seen as a negative, destructive force, a source of unchecked power and unbridled aggression – just as the feminine in its extreme is perceived as jealous, bitter, devouring, and smothering. When I encounter the extreme form of either, it triggers and saddens me – but then I remember that the extreme is just one narrow manifestation of this energy. I acknowledge the many other manifestations of necessity, beauty, and purpose, and I long to create a world in which the two can dance with and feed each other in the way they were meant to.

The Divine Masculine does exist for a reason. It’s the energy that propels us forward, the force that gives as the feminine receives. Part of its role is to protect as the feminine nurtures. The Divine Masculine represents consciousness itself, that which never changes, and through the Divine Feminine, thought and inspiration come into form. Everything that changes is feminine. Our cycles, seasons, and bodies are feminine form. The feminine curves, swirls and flows around the steadfast masculine. Imagine the masculine moving as a straight line and straight angles. It’s the feminine that harnesses the potent impulse of the masculine into a circle, capable of achieving wholeness and completion. Both forces exist within all of us, regardless of gender or sexual identity. They live in the spirit alongside each other, and the masculine provides the feminine with the backbone needed to reach the highest states of creative magic.

This Father’s Day, I’m calling you to consider the role the Divine Masculine plays in our lives. How can we begin to heal and fortify this force, most importantly, within ourselves? How can we honor and integrate it, so we can all benefit from its highest expression? Here are five ways that came to mind.

5 Ways to Honor, Heal, and Integrate the Divine Masculine

1. Understand that compassion and strength are not mutually exclusive

Growing up, many of us were taught to believe that compassion and strength act in opposition to one another. There’s this idea that the compassionate nature of the feminine denotes weakness, while the strength of the masculine denotes a lack of empathy. However, I believe that the two can, and should, exist in harmony – and when it comes down to it, there is strength in compassion and compassion in true strength.

2. Teach your children to be both kind and bold

In order to cultivate healing between the Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine, we must teach our children to embody both. By teaching our children to hold qualities of kindness, empathy, and acceptance, while also remaining adventurous, assertive, and bold, we can show them that the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine don’t take away from one another – in fact, they feed and strengthen each other.

3. Remember: Emoting is NOT a sign of weakness

I’ll say that again because it bears repeating: Emoting is NOT a sign of weakness. It often baffles me that little boys are taught to not cry while little girls are encouraged to. Most of the issues we face today can be attributed to emotional constipation. There are too many people, men and women alike, who have not been given the space and opportunity to cry. To feel. To be with all of their feelings. In fact, I’ve met some people who are so disconnected from their feelings and emotions that they need to be taught how to access those parts of themself. That kind of repression seeps up in ways that are not only harmful to the individual and his/her immediate surroundings, but to our communities and our planet. When little girls and little boys are encouraged to acknowledge, process, and understand their emotions and are supported in expressing how they feel, they grow into balanced men and women who are equipped with the tools necessary to navigate in an ever-changing and shifting world.

4. Rewrite your father narrative/story

What story do you tell yourself about your father? The men in your life? How does it make you feel? Does it support your growth or does it help you to harbor feelings of guilt, shame, embarrassment, or anger within? If the story you have about your father and the men in your life isn’t empowering, are you willing to trade it in for one that is? Just as we can shift our relationship to money, self-worth, health, our families, and more by transforming how we view it and identify with it, we can do the same around our narratives and stories about our fathers and male figures. To do so requires forgiveness. Although we can’t physically go back to fix and change the events that created the chasms, we can energetically do so, freeing up ourselves and them from the pain and guilt. Are you willing to learn from and forgive the past, and write a story that feels good to your heart and mind? One that allows you the joy that comes from acceptance and starting anew? Be gentle with yourself; you’re worth a new beginning and so are those who may have hurt and undervalued you.

5. Be a father to yourself

Lastly, I would like to challenge you to turn the lens inward and ask yourself: Am I in touch with my Divine Masculine? Can you be a father to yourself – a source of logic, firmness, action, and independence? Cultivate that part of you. Learn to possess the divine qualities of both the feminine and the masculine; allow that harmony to radiate out of you and bring light to the world.

In closing

The feminine and the masculine do not exist without each other, and bringing them into balance has the profound power to heal. Doing so will bring us into harmony with ourselves, each other, the Earth, and the entire Universe. With that, I wish you all a Happy Father’s Day, from the deepest space in my heart. May this day reflect the union of the Divine Feminine and Masculine; may it forge the beginnings of a bridge of peace, trust, and possibility.

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